So why is it called “From Wishing to Believing” you ask?! 

Because so often as desperate sensory parents, we put all our faith and hope into allllllllllll the things people suggest and we hope something will work. Well, I want to encourage us all to stop wishing for something to work, and start believing that with a plan (and support) we can take charge of our kiddos’ outcomes. 

I have spent years deep in the dark depths of all of my son’s diagnoses: ASD, SPD, ADHD, Anxiety Disorder and Depression. I have filled out all the questionnaires, checklists, and interview questions. I have run around to all the doctors, specialists, and therapies. I have joined all the parent FB and support groups. I have bought all the fidgets, supplements, and tools. 

And yet I was still struggling. He was still struggling. 

I mean STRU-GU-LING!!!!! 

I understood that all these things would take time to show a positive effect, and I also understood that this was a long game. But when you’re in the thick of it and feel like you can’t breathe some days, you need something now. You need to feel like YOU have control and aren’t just at the whim of all these other life rafts to save you and your child.

I also understand that the last thing we parents need is another thing to feel guilty, inadequate, or like a failure about. 

So in this blog you won’t hear what you “should” be doing, buying, or believing (other than believing that there is hope and answers). You won’t be judged for what you’re doing or not doing. 

My hope is to share my failures and successes (with a little rawness, potty mouth, and feistiness) so that: 

  • You know you’re not alone 
  • You might find something that helps you/your child 
  • You have one part of your day where you smile or laugh
  • You feel seen and heard in a way you don’t get elsewhere 
So check back here on those days when you need a specific sensory tip for your kid, like: tying their shoes, eating more foods, or cleaning their room. ….or just need to zone out on something other than your overwhelming day.

Hugs to you, fellow sensory parent!!

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Why I Didn't "Just Cut Off" My SPD Kiddo's Hair

Why I Didn't "Just Cut Off" My SPD Kiddo's Hair
In the blog post "Why I Didn't 'Just Cut Off' My SPD Kiddo's Hair," the author addresses common advice given to parents of children with Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) to simply cut their children's hair if they struggle with its care. The post emphasizes the importance of autonomy for SPD children, acknowledging that they often have limited opportunities for self-expression due to sensitivities to clothing and other stimuli. Allowing a child to choose their hairstyle can be a critical aspect of their identity and personal agency.

The author warns against the potential trauma that forced haircuts can induce, noting that SPD children already face significant fear and anxiety. A forced haircut can exacerbate these feelings, creating negative associations and increasing trust issues. This approach, while seemingly a quick fix, may ultimately lead to more significant emotional and psychological problems in the long term.

Instead of opting for drastic measures, the post advocates for finding better solutions that preserve the child's autonomy and trust. There are tools and strategies to make hair brushing and washing less stressful for SPD children, and it is perfectly acceptable if their hair occasionally looks untamed. By investing extra thought and time into addressing these challenges, parents can help their children manage sensory issues while maintaining their self-identity and confidence.
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Untangling Hair Brushing with Sensory Processing Kiddos

Untangling Hair Brushing with Sensory Processing Kiddos
Hair brushing is a routine task that can be particularly challenging for children with Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) due to heightened sensitivity, resulting in discomfort and anxiety. Effective solutions include gradually introducing hair brushing through desensitization techniques, using soft-bristled brushes or wide-tooth combs, and applying pure, therapeutic-grade essential oils like Lavender and Cedarwood to calm the scalp. Establishing a consistent, comforting routine, allowing the child to make choices, and using distraction techniques can also help make the process more manageable and enjoyable.

Parents can further ease the hair brushing experience by understanding their child's specific challenges and preferences. Creating an environment that includes soothing elements and incorporating the child’s input can reduce anxiety and improve cooperation. Above all, patience and empathy are crucial, as these approaches ensure a more pleasant and stress-free grooming ritual for children with SPD.
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