So why is it called “From Wishing to Believing” you ask?! 

Because so often as desperate sensory parents, we put all our faith and hope into allllllllllll the things people suggest and we hope something will work. Well, I want to encourage us all to stop wishing for something to work, and start believing that with a plan (and support) we can take charge of our kiddos’ outcomes. 

I have spent years deep in the dark depths of all of my son’s diagnoses: ASD, SPD, ADHD, Anxiety Disorder and Depression. I have filled out all the questionnaires, checklists, and interview questions. I have run around to all the doctors, specialists, and therapies. I have joined all the parent FB and support groups. I have bought all the fidgets, supplements, and tools. 

And yet I was still struggling. He was still struggling. 

I mean STRU-GU-LING!!!!! 

I understood that all these things would take time to show a positive effect, and I also understood that this was a long game. But when you’re in the thick of it and feel like you can’t breathe some days, you need something now. You need to feel like YOU have control and aren’t just at the whim of all these other life rafts to save you and your child.

I also understand that the last thing we parents need is another thing to feel guilty, inadequate, or like a failure about. 

So in this blog you won’t hear what you “should” be doing, buying, or believing (other than believing that there is hope and answers). You won’t be judged for what you’re doing or not doing. 

My hope is to share my failures and successes (with a little rawness, potty mouth, and feistiness) so that: 

  • You know you’re not alone 
  • You might find something that helps you/your child 
  • You have one part of your day where you smile or laugh
  • You feel seen and heard in a way you don’t get elsewhere 
So check back here on those days when you need a specific sensory tip for your kid, like: tying their shoes, eating more foods, or cleaning their room. ….or just need to zone out on something other than your overwhelming day.

Hugs to you, fellow sensory parent!!

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Navigating Brushing Teeth for Children with Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD)

Navigating Brushing Teeth for Children with Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD)

Brushing teeth can be a simple nightly routine for many families, but for parents of children with Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD), it can be a nightmare. SPD can make everyday activities, including oral hygiene practices like tooth brushing, challenging due to heightened sensitivity to textures, tastes, and sensations. However, with patience, the right tools, and creative strategies, we parents can support our children in developing healthy brushing habits. Here are some tips and insights to help make tooth brushing less of a battle and more of an achievable goal.

Understanding their Aversion is Real

As tired parents just trying to get through the nightly routine can be frustrating.  And when our children halt that timeline and add refusal, crying, meltdowns, etc, it can put us over the edge.  But we have to remember that our children with SPD are likely experiencing heightened or reduced sensitivity to some sensory input. The feeling of a toothbrush in their mouth, the texture of toothpaste, the sound of brushing, or even the smell can be overwhelming for them. This heightened sensitivity can make tooth brushing feel like an unbearable, or even painful, experience, leading to resistance or meltdowns. Recognizing that these reactions are not a child’s defiance but a response to sensory overload is the first step in addressing the challenge.  The second step is finding/using tools that support their sensory needs.  The third?  Well, that's mustering up all the patience you can to not add your own frustration to the chaos.

Sensory Needs Met First!

Although it can be hard to pack one more "to-do" into an already busy nighttime routine, this one is ESSENTIAL.  Not only for tooth brushing, but for bath time, getting pj's on, going to sleep, and staying asleep.  If an SPD kiddo's sensory needs are not met, espcially for demanding tasks, just be ready for trouble.  Their bodies crave...NEED that sensory input to feel balanced and safe.  Otherwise, every little touch, sound, or smell, can bring them to their breaking point.  So plan on working one of their sensory exercises into the routine...jumping, swinging, wrestling...whatever helps balance and calm your child. You'll see that their bodies and brains will be more accepting of unpleasant activities like brushing their teeth.  

Special Toothbrushes for Special Needs

To make the brushing experience more comfortable for children with SPD, consider investing in special toothbrushes designed for sensitive mouths. Here are some features to look for:

*Soft Bristles- Extra-soft bristles can reduce the feeling of harshness that many children with SPD experience.
*Vibrating Brushes-Electric toothbrushes with gentle vibrations can sometimes provide a calming sensation that helps reduce discomfort.  This one is specifically designed for children with special needs, providing gentle vibrations and soft bristles.
*Textured Handles-For children who seek additional tactile input, toothbrushes with textured handles might be soothing to hold.

Sensory-Friendly Toothpaste

Traditional toothpaste flavors and textures can be off-putting for children with SPD. Look for toothpaste that is:

*Flavor-Free or Mildly Flavored-Options without strong mint or other intense flavors can be more tolerable.
*Non-Foaming- Some children find the foaming action of regular toothpaste distressing.
*Natural Ingredients- Toothpaste made from natural ingredients might be less irritating for sensitive mouths.  This one is flouride free, has enamel protecting xylitol, and carries a flavor free version.

Make It Fun

Turning tooth brushing into a fun activity can also help.  Even if just distracting from the task at hand, using fun can avert their senses elsewhere.  

*Brushing Apps- There are apps available that play music or show videos for the duration your child should be brushing.  This smart toothbrush "gamifies" brushing by rewarding points, has fun stickers, and shows how much of their mouth they missed/covered.   It's helpful for parents to track progress too!
*Role Play- Use toys or stuffed animals to demonstrate brushing teeth, allowing your child to practice on them first.
*Papparazzi-I don't know about you, but my son LOVES having me take pictures of him (doing anything and everything) on my phone, then looking at himself in the pictures afterwards.  Capitalize on this by making them the star of the bathroom!  Get the camera out and start snapping away as they pose at different stages of brushing. 
*Timers-Use a timer or a special hourglass to provide a visual cue for how long they need to brush.

Progress is Progress

We have a vision of what tooth brushing should look like...2 full minutes, getting every tooth, top and bottom, front and back, etc.  But we have to realize that even though that's the end goal, it probably won't start out there.  Be willing to accept that any progress is getting you to that end goal. Even if they're only willing to bite on the brush right now, that's at least getting them used to the brush in their mouth before adding the other stressful components. Remember that progress may be slow, and it’s important to be patient and consistent. Celebrate small successes and offer plenty of reassurance.

Tooth brushing doesn’t have to be a nightly struggle for children with Sensory Processing Disorder. By understanding the root of their sensitivities and incorporating special tools, sensory activities, and creative strategies, you can help your child develop a more positive relationship with this crucial aspect of their daily routine. With patience and persistence, even the most challenging task can become a manageable—and even enjoyable—part of your day. Happy brushing!

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